Told you so...
If there is one thing that I need to hear when I have a really big problem that i just cant get over with, it's certainly not a proud "I told you so" and a series of non-stop nagging. "See, I told you to do this, and you didnt, and see what happened? If only you'd blablablabla, this wouldn't have happened." And more blablablabla. Usually after a few more blablablas, I'd have totally shut everything out, and think of a vacation in Hawaii sipping my strawberry daiquiri.
What do people intend to accomplish exactly? To open my eyes to my mistakes, to tell me that you were right and I was wrong, or just to add salt to my wounds?? Well let me tell you this, no matter how noble your intentions are, and whether you realize it or not, the result will ALWAYS be the latter case.
Don't expect me to say, "Oh, hmm yeah okay I see now, I was wrong. Blablablabla."
Instead, I will say, yeah f*ck you. Hmm yeah, I wish I have that kind of selamba-ness. I'd just shut up.
What I really need to hear is a reassuring "It's okay". Not an "I told you so" and make it seem like life is gonna get worse for me from then onwards. I wanna hear you say, "Its okay honey, it'll surely get better next time" and gimme a big hug. That at least will make me feel good, if not that much, at least 25% better.
That's why I love Yusnida. Of course lah she never gave me a big hug, but she always makes me feel better. I'd always start out crying like a baby, and after a really long talk with her, I'll always end lauging at her not-so-funny jokes, calling me bongok and all.
If there is one thing that I need to hear when I have a really big problem that i just cant get over with, it's certainly not a proud "I told you so" and a series of non-stop nagging. "See, I told you to do this, and you didnt, and see what happened? If only you'd blablablabla, this wouldn't have happened." And more blablablabla. Usually after a few more blablablas, I'd have totally shut everything out, and think of a vacation in Hawaii sipping my strawberry daiquiri.
What do people intend to accomplish exactly? To open my eyes to my mistakes, to tell me that you were right and I was wrong, or just to add salt to my wounds?? Well let me tell you this, no matter how noble your intentions are, and whether you realize it or not, the result will ALWAYS be the latter case.
Don't expect me to say, "Oh, hmm yeah okay I see now, I was wrong. Blablablabla."
Instead, I will say, yeah f*ck you. Hmm yeah, I wish I have that kind of selamba-ness. I'd just shut up.
What I really need to hear is a reassuring "It's okay". Not an "I told you so" and make it seem like life is gonna get worse for me from then onwards. I wanna hear you say, "Its okay honey, it'll surely get better next time" and gimme a big hug. That at least will make me feel good, if not that much, at least 25% better.
That's why I love Yusnida. Of course lah she never gave me a big hug, but she always makes me feel better. I'd always start out crying like a baby, and after a really long talk with her, I'll always end lauging at her not-so-funny jokes, calling me bongok and all.
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