First Time Servantless-Full-Time-Working-Mom
I think the title says it all. If you still don't get it, my maid has gone back for good. She said she's too old to cope up with my son and the housework. She only told me this a month before he visa expires leaving me with insufficient time to find a replacement. As I'm writing this I feel the need to drown someone in a pail. Well, maids, cant live with em, cant live without them.
I'm helpless. I am lost. I am not sure how i can cope with this. I cant remember the last time I ironed my own workshirt. Or folded my own pajamas. Or swept the floor. This morning it took me 10 minutes to figure out how to use our washing machine. I know, I'm spoiled. Please don't hate me.
Its only been a day since she went back, and the rumah is in a mess already. I can't cope up with the dishes, I didn't even mop the floor when kimi spilled air kosong. Instead, I just arranged bangku around the mess, sorta like cones. Nanti esok dia kering la sendiri.
Now, I know a lot of you out there are also servantless (pinjam term dalam cerita Julie & Julia), full time working mom or stay at home moms, and yet you manage to pull it off. Wafaa, Cikyam, Beba, Lana and the likes, you people get my utmost respect. Anda semua adalah superwoman!! How the hell do you guys balance work and family?
I know I'm gonna be super-stressed these coming weeks, so I've made strategies to make my it all more bearable.
On Kimi:
We're sending Kimi to a babysitter who used to babysit my niece. Ini pun buat stress sebab Kimi is not used to other people but the family. Takut he cant get used to it or that dia terlebih lasak dekat rumah orang that the babysitter nanti refuse to take care of him. Since last night Ive been having pep-talks with Kimi to tell him to behave dekat rumah orang. Hopefully masuk brain dia.
On Cooking:
SInce I dont wanna burden my mom with all the cooking, I've cooked the whole week's dinner in advance and freeze them. Nanti mak tinggal nak reheat je. Same goes for Kimi's food. This will also spare me the worries kalau tak sempat balik masak, since my job is too unpredictable and too crazy that going back at 5 sharp or even 5 ish seems like such a luxury that I cant afford. Tho I wont have any choice but to leave the latest by 6 so that I can pick kimi up on time.
On Laundry:
I will only do our (ach's, kimi's and mine) laundry once a week. Pulun time weekend. For next week bibik dah siap iron semua before she went back.
On cleaning the house:
I can't stand a messy kitchen. The rest of the house can be upside down and I can still be happy but i'll get upset if I see the kitchen in a mess. So I'll only clean the rest of the house once a week but make sure that I mop / sweep/ clean the kitchen / stove/ sink every day.
On juggling work, all of the above and husband:
Rahsia.
Again, I know this might not be a big deal to most of you, but this is my first time. Kira-kira beginner la ni. I know I can do this I just need time to get used to it.
Welcome to womanhood, Ajan!
I'm helpless. I am lost. I am not sure how i can cope with this. I cant remember the last time I ironed my own workshirt. Or folded my own pajamas. Or swept the floor. This morning it took me 10 minutes to figure out how to use our washing machine. I know, I'm spoiled. Please don't hate me.
Its only been a day since she went back, and the rumah is in a mess already. I can't cope up with the dishes, I didn't even mop the floor when kimi spilled air kosong. Instead, I just arranged bangku around the mess, sorta like cones. Nanti esok dia kering la sendiri.
Now, I know a lot of you out there are also servantless (pinjam term dalam cerita Julie & Julia), full time working mom or stay at home moms, and yet you manage to pull it off. Wafaa, Cikyam, Beba, Lana and the likes, you people get my utmost respect. Anda semua adalah superwoman!! How the hell do you guys balance work and family?
I know I'm gonna be super-stressed these coming weeks, so I've made strategies to make my it all more bearable.
On Kimi:
We're sending Kimi to a babysitter who used to babysit my niece. Ini pun buat stress sebab Kimi is not used to other people but the family. Takut he cant get used to it or that dia terlebih lasak dekat rumah orang that the babysitter nanti refuse to take care of him. Since last night Ive been having pep-talks with Kimi to tell him to behave dekat rumah orang. Hopefully masuk brain dia.
On Cooking:
SInce I dont wanna burden my mom with all the cooking, I've cooked the whole week's dinner in advance and freeze them. Nanti mak tinggal nak reheat je. Same goes for Kimi's food. This will also spare me the worries kalau tak sempat balik masak, since my job is too unpredictable and too crazy that going back at 5 sharp or even 5 ish seems like such a luxury that I cant afford. Tho I wont have any choice but to leave the latest by 6 so that I can pick kimi up on time.
On Laundry:
I will only do our (ach's, kimi's and mine) laundry once a week. Pulun time weekend. For next week bibik dah siap iron semua before she went back.
On cleaning the house:
I can't stand a messy kitchen. The rest of the house can be upside down and I can still be happy but i'll get upset if I see the kitchen in a mess. So I'll only clean the rest of the house once a week but make sure that I mop / sweep/ clean the kitchen / stove/ sink every day.
On juggling work, all of the above and husband:
Rahsia.
Again, I know this might not be a big deal to most of you, but this is my first time. Kira-kira beginner la ni. I know I can do this I just need time to get used to it.
Welcome to womanhood, Ajan!
Comments
hish hish hish.. memang crazy life kan. takpe, u can do it!! :)
i can write a whole blog post about it actually. It takes a LOT of patience, choices of what to do and what to buat2 x nampak. whatever it is, try to sit down with ach and find a way to delegate it between u and him AND delegate OUT as well. Manage things mcm laundry hantar kedai for ironing, and kemas rumah once in 2 weeks panggil org luar ke.
The key is, don't do EVERYTHING yourself.Do what u can n delegate out.
Good luck Ajan & Ach!
it's ok not to cook in 1 day. beli je lauk siap :p have rest a while. penting tu.
kalau stress jugak, layan facebook dan tell ur husband 'i nak cuti hari ni'. :p
Good luck!
Thanks for the kind words and encouragement! I'm sure we'll be OK.
Ini gaya2 anak manja baru nak live out on my own la kira. Hiihihi.
Tiba2 rasa terharu.