Happy 13th Birthday, Hakimi

Asalamualaikum Hakimi anak pertama Mami, 

You are 13 today. 

You are on a life-long journey of discovery. There are so many wonderful things to learn about life, about yourself, about the world. How does the world work? Why do things around us happen? What motivates people to do the things they do? Why are we in living in a different country? Why is Mami baking too much bread? Why is your brother annoying you? How did Trump became the POTUS? How did a political party voted off legitimately became part of the ruling government two years later? (eh?)  

What are your values? What piques your curiosity? What makes you tick? What makes you happy? Do you even know how happy feels?

Most importantly, who is Hakimi? 

Tony Stark defines himself as a genius, billionaire, playboy, philanthropist. 

What defines you? 

Kimi baby, 

I am already nearing 40, and even I don't have the answers to the above questions. Anyways, life is an evolving process - you continuously learn. Who you are  and your values when you are 13, 20, 30, will (may) not be the same when you are at 38, and that is more than OK. What's not okay is staying the same. The only thing that remains constant in life is the change itself. 

Whoever you choose to be, always choose to be good. Be of value to those who surround you. But don't be a people pleaser. You can deliver value without pleasing people. 

Anyways. Whoever you choose to be and whatever you choose to do, I will always be here for you. 

Much love,

Mami. 

Hakimi and Hadi, October 2021
Jakarta, Indonesia